Ways To Please Your Wife
1 - Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in
your marriage.
2 - Always greet her whenever you arrive
3 - Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a
lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4 - Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence
of others, it can be a type of humility
5 - Be generous with her
6 - Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her
sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7 - Avoid anger.
8 - Look good for her and smell great.
9 - Don’t be rigid, you will broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean
you have to be harsh hearted
10 - Be a good listener
11 - Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12 - Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear. i.e: the prophet
(Saw) used to call Aisha- A’ish!
13 - Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the
season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in
surprising her pleasantly.
14 - Preserve the tongue.
15 - Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one.
16 - Show your appreciation to her.
17 - Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations.
18 - Speak topics of her interest.
19 - Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20 - Shower her with gifts. The prophet (saw) said: give gifts and you’ll love
each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s
the thought that counts!
21 - Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy
her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22 - Think good of her- husn althan-
23 - Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24 - Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of
pregnancy, menses…etc
25 - Expect and respect her jealousy.
26 - Be humble
27 - Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28 - Help her around household chores just like the prophet (saw) did.
29 - Help her respect and love your parents and you also love and respect her
parents
30 - Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in
many ways, so make her feel that.
31 - Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32 - Leave her past to Allah swt
33 - Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34 - Shaytaan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35 - When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! – Not only does it
go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36 - Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a
precious pearl
37 - Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! Don’t put your smile
out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid, smiling is Sadaqah
38 - Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them,
it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39 - Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40 - Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41 - Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42 - Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43 - Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44 - Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45 - Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her
food.
46 - Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let
her know about your arrival.
47 - When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48 - Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and
don’t make it a garage sale.
49 - Encourage each other to worship/obey Allah swt – Go for umrah together,
listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51 - Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52 - Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many
kisses- A kiss is a messenger- alqubulah rasool
53 - When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it
with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54 - Show her that you care for her health.
55 - Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the
prophet (saw)-
56 - Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57 - Have mercy on her.
58 - Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59 - Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in
fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60 - Have good intentions for your wife – alniyaatu atayibaah.
1 - Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in
your marriage.
2 - Always greet her whenever you arrive
3 - Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a
lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4 - Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence
of others, it can be a type of humility
5 - Be generous with her
6 - Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her
sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7 - Avoid anger.
8 - Look good for her and smell great.
9 - Don’t be rigid, you will broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean
you have to be harsh hearted
10 - Be a good listener
11 - Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12 - Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear. i.e: the prophet
(Saw) used to call Aisha- A’ish!
13 - Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the
season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in
surprising her pleasantly.
14 - Preserve the tongue.
15 - Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one.
16 - Show your appreciation to her.
17 - Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations.
18 - Speak topics of her interest.
19 - Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20 - Shower her with gifts. The prophet (saw) said: give gifts and you’ll love
each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s
the thought that counts!
21 - Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy
her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22 - Think good of her- husn althan-
23 - Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24 - Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of
pregnancy, menses…etc
25 - Expect and respect her jealousy.
26 - Be humble
27 - Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28 - Help her around household chores just like the prophet (saw) did.
29 - Help her respect and love your parents and you also love and respect her
parents
30 - Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in
many ways, so make her feel that.
31 - Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32 - Leave her past to Allah swt
33 - Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34 - Shaytaan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35 - When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! – Not only does it
go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36 - Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a
precious pearl
37 - Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! Don’t put your smile
out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid, smiling is Sadaqah
38 - Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them,
it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39 - Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40 - Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41 - Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42 - Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43 - Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44 - Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45 - Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her
food.
46 - Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let
her know about your arrival.
47 - When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48 - Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and
don’t make it a garage sale.
49 - Encourage each other to worship/obey Allah swt – Go for umrah together,
listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51 - Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52 - Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many
kisses- A kiss is a messenger- alqubulah rasool
53 - When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it
with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54 - Show her that you care for her health.
55 - Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the
prophet (saw)-
56 - Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57 - Have mercy on her.
58 - Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59 - Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in
fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60 - Have good intentions for your wife – alniyaatu atayibaah.
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